Resources
This isn't a reading list to make me look well read. It's what I reached for when I was trying to put myself back together... plus a few things men in my groups brought back and said were worth it.
Where are you struggling? Most guys already know the answer. Read these and notice which one you don't want to look at.
Mindset & Growth
Before you change anything it helps to have language for how you're actually wired. Both of these take under an hour.
Formerly StrengthsFinder 2.0. Tells you what you are naturally good at instead of what you are bad at. I use this in every group I run.
Take it at GallupAny decent one will do. The point isn't the label. It's noticing the patterns you have been fighting instead of using.
Take the free testOld talks, mostly free on YouTube. When I was at my lowest I made myself watch one every morning. It didn't fix anything on its own, but it moved the needle on wanting to try.
Habits
One of the six habits in every Flip to Keep group. Turn the color off and it gets a lot less interesting, fast.
Why the habits you lost went quietly, and how they actually come back. One at a time.
Get it on AmazonHard to read this and keep blaming your circumstances. That's the point.
Get it on AmazonWant men holding you to it? See the Flip to Keep group →
Back to all topics ↑Health
Four of the six habits in every Flip to Keep group are about your body. None of them cost a thing.
Wealth
Ramsey's step-by-step order for getting out of debt and building wealth, one step at a time.
See the 7 Baby StepsThe one that started it. I picked it up feeling completely stuck in a job I dreaded, and it was the first time I saw there was another way to think about any of it.
Get it on AmazonTop ten book for me. Hill spent years collecting Andrew Carnegie's thinking and wrote it down. The section on why leaders fail is worth the whole book.
Get it on AmazonWork
For the guy who is busy every day and can't point to anything he built.
Get it on AmazonFor when everything feels important and nothing is getting done. What's the one thing that makes everything else easier?
Get it on AmazonStuck in a job you don't love? Start with the free Unstuck Kit →
Back to all topics ↑Family
Take it, then have your wife take it. Then actually talk about the results.
Take the free quizFaith
Short daily plans on the Bible App. Pick one, and read it before you look at anything else in the morning.
Start a reading planWritten by a guy who's still doing the work, not one who finished.
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I waited over a year to go to counseling after I lost my brother. It's the thing I'd take back if I could take one thing back.
If you're reading this and something in you already knows, don't do what I did. Ask your doctor for a referral, ask your pastor, or search for a counselor in your area. It's a normal thing that a lot of us should have done sooner.
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If you're in crisis or thinking about hurting yourself, call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Any time, day or night.
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